I read this on Jenny's blog and I loved it.

To love instead of hate
To smile instead of frown
To praise instead of grumble
To give instead of take
To give grace instead of criticism and judgment
To hope instead of despair
To cherish (time, energy, etc.) instead of waste
To see the glass as half full instead of half empty
To remember and think about truths instead of falsehoods
To dance instead of sit like a blob
To sing instead of croak
To bless instead of curse
To be patient instead of spastic and rushed
To be calm instead of frantic
To be kind instead of mean
To be real instead of fake
To persevere instead of giving up
To be humble instead of prideful
To be last instead of first
To be quiet instead of noisy
To be noisy instead of quiet (since there is a time for everything)
To be strong instead of weak (strong in my faith I mean, strong in my
defense of the Lord, and in my defense of my bride)
To be weak instead of strong (that is, when I am weak, He is strong)
To let go of instead of holding onto regret and guilt
To listen instead of always rambling
To listen to wise council instead of foolish or gossipy talk
To be compassionate instead of apathetic
To give second, third, fourth, fifth (etc.) chances instead of
hardening my heart
To have faith instead of sinking into a pit
To hold onto instead of letting go
To let go instead of holding onto
To surrender instead of trying to control
To ask "Why not me?" instead of "Why me?!" (Sassy has said this many
times)
To cry instead of trying to "be tough"
To serve an audience of One instead of serving myself and others
To be joyful instead of wallowing in self-pity
To be gentle with my words and actions instead of being quick and
harsh
To teach instead of preach
To see the blue sky instead of only the dark clouds covering it
To feel, see, taste, hear and smell Him in EVERYTHING and EVERYBODY
instead of, well…instead of NOT feeling, seeing, tasting, hearing,
smelling Him!!!!!
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